As of yesterday, I'm single again.  To put it simply, Mr. Big thought he could have his cake and eat it too.  I don't think so!  I went to go get a box and he was chatting with this girl in the next office.  He was saying how he had gone out Saturday night to a dinner function or something, who really cares?  He goes on to say how his girlfriend won the door prize.  I just stopped.  Girlfriend?  I was in the house Saturday night.

Fast forward an hour or so later.  I'm sitting at my desk at work.  I decided to send him an email.  Short and sweet.  “Girlfriend, huh?  Guess I walked in at the wrong time.”  Then he decides to piss me off by stating “I guess I did refer to her as my girlfriend, which maybe a bit presumptious, as I have only known her for the past 3 weeks.”  Silly ME!  Only 3 weeks.  That's a horse of a different color!  I guess he was waiting to see if it “worked out.”  I wondered how long it would be before I (ya know, the other girlfriend) was going to find out.  Maybe a month, 6 months, a year.  I basically emailed all this back to him along with how I'm not hurt, just sad that this reinforces my opinions of men.  Then I queried if I needed to take a test or not.

Do you know HE had the balls to get offended?  He decided to remind me how back in December I asked for my keys back for what he says amounting to him “escorting” his ex-girlfriend to one of her work functions.  (I remember the conversation differently.)  How he didn't try to press me on my decision because of my principles that I can't be with/have sex with/go out with someone if he were seeing someone else.  (He did use seeing lightly in this email.)

Then he mentioned how we've only seen each other 3 or 4 times since then (WHAT?  We spent the week in NY together which was 5 days alone and that was back in June.  How dumb does he think I am?)  Ironically, he then said that neither one of us have established any new ground rules since then.  Then he mentioned he's been seeing chicky for 3 weeks and he hasn't done anything with her but I can feel free to go take a test “After all I am a man“.

Hmmmm, let's see.  Over six months ago, I broke up with Mr. Big because he hung out with his ex on several occasions.  Let me clear up that I am NOT the jealous type.  But this was withheld information.  Why the secrecy?  It came out as an oopsie.  If my principles were I am not going to be with someone who is seeing someone else, would they really change in that short of amount of time? 

Why would we define someting that's been defined countless times before?  We've been together on and off for 3 years.  Neither one of likes having “the talk”, especially him.  Why go over “rules”?  Really, it's all about respect.  How are you going to be with me and hang out with someone else? 

In my final email to Mr. Big, I left with one parting shot....My bad.  I assumed you were different.  But you know what they say when you assume....

Men make me SICK.  All in all though, I am in a really good mood:)  He was like an old comfy slipper.  It's time to throw the damned things out.  Try on some new ones.  See if I can get a good fit.  I do think for right now I'm just going to chill.  Be single for awhile.